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What is an adoptive home study?

Giving a new life to an abandoned child is a beautiful way to build a family. 

At Adoption & Beyond, we make sure our children get safe homes and loving parents. And ensuring those homes are the right place for an adopted child begins with an adoptive home study.

An adoptive home study is the initial part of the adoption process, which involves a few in-person visits, educational training, and meeting with a prospective adoptive family in their home. This is part of the adoptive process, no matter what type of adoption you pursue. To help hopeful adoptive families prepare for this part of their journey, we have compiled a small guide to assist you. Here is what you need to know.


As you speak with the home study caseworker or complete paperwork, you will cover a variety of topics. This includes questions about:

Being a home study caseworker we have to do all paperwork where we cover a variety of topics

  • Current financial situation
  • Cultural background
  • Plans for childcare and education
  • Child abuse registry check
  • Marriage status
  • Family and extended family information
  • Criminal record check
  • Views on discipline
  • Medical history
  • Views on parenting

How to help my adopted child to maintain culture?

Nowadays cross-culture adoption is common however it brings some uncommon complications when you adopt a child from a different culture, that parent  has quite little more homework to do. 

Before passing your tradition and culture, you have to understand your adopted child’s culture. All you need to understand your child first. As your child starts to get older, he/she becomes more expressive and start showing his/her interest through words or emotions that which parts of her culture she wants to incorporate into her life.

This unique opportunity embraces the new culture that has infiltrated your family and to provide the opportunity to teach your child to take pride in where they are from and develop appreciation and respect for others from an early age.      

Prepare Yourself First – Being a adoptive parents its your duty first explore as much as you can about your child’s culture and heritage. For exploring your child’s culture go through the books and online websites, learn new recipe which are famous in your child’s place of birth.   

Additionally you can explore cuisines, holidays, celebrations, language and traditions. If you have any friend  and related from the same culture invite them at your home,  and questions them about their favorite traditions and cultural themes, attend their religious services, meetings, etc.

Be optimistic and Open- Being born and raised in different culture is require open and honest conversation between you and your children. Let your child know that you welcome their question and  curiosity if possible join them to find the answer and solution. Add artwork, home décor,music from your child’s place of origin to your home environment.

When your child reached teen age they will start to integrate their life experiences into developing their own sense of identity.Most importantly, with a positive and open home environment where they are free to explore their own culture and heritage, they will be able to incorporate a well rounded, and proud sense of themselves as they transition into young adulthood.

Don’t insist to adapt– Don’t push your adopted child hard to adapt to new changes soon. Because it takes time to learn anything new. Just appreciate your child’s efforts adding to learn the new language, enjoy new foods, and adapt to new routines. Being flexible and understanding of what your child’s needs and wants are as they grow regarding their culture and heritage will make their journey easier.

Also check International Adoption Process- INTERNATIONAL ADOPTION PROCESS IN INDIA

The girl child is adopted more in India- CARA

“Couples are not allowed to adopt a child until they have stable marital relationships” mention in the regulations. A person can adopt the child irrespective of their financial and marital status, whether or not he/she has a biological son/daughter.

Nowadays a substantial number of families registering for child adoption. Cara (Central Adoption Resource Authority) stated to Express Parenting.  CARA is the nodal body for the adoption of Indian children and is mandated to promote and facilitate in-country adoptions and regulate inter-country adoptions, as Central Authority of Government of India.

CARA has shown there were about 3374 domestic and 653 inter-country adoptions in the financial year 2018-19. And there are those who are opting for adoption even after having a biological kid. And most people adopting girl children.

“People are adopting girl children these days. There has been a societal change in terms of awareness but we still have a long way to go,” remarks Deepak Kumar 

The need of the hour is to sensitize not just parents but also the future generation in schools and other institutions for increased acceptance of adoption in the years to come, he believes.

We all need to keep one thing in mind that adoption is not an act of charity. It is about taking absolute care and responsibility of a child as you give them a home and a family, no different from that of a biological child. So, if you are supposing to adopt a child, here is everything you need to know before registering for child adoption.

Rules & Regulation of Adopting Child(Who can adopt)

As per the Adoption Regulations 2017 and in accordance with the Juvenile Justice (Care and Protection of Children) Act, 2015, issued by the Ministry of Women and Child Development:

1. The prospective adoptive parents (PAP) “should be physically, mentally, and emotionally stable, financially capable and shall not have any life-threatening medical condition.”

2. A person can adopt irrespective of their marital status and whether or not he or she has a biological son or daughter.

3. A single female can adopt a child of any gender but a single male shall not be eligible to adopt a girl child. In the case of a married couple, both spouses should give their consent for adoption.

4. “No child shall be given in adoption to a couple unless they have at least two years of stable marital relationship,” mention the regulations.

5. Couples with three or more children shall not be considered for adoption “except in case of special need children”, “hard to place children” and in case of “relative adoption and adoption by step-parent”.

Apart from resident and non-resident Indians, even overseas citizens of India and foreign parents can adopt children from the country.

6 Reasons Why People Adopt a Child

Adopt a Child

Why do People adopt? When we ask this question, then the very first or simple answer is infertility, Right? But do you know there are a lot of other reasons that convince couples to Adopt a Child. The Child Adoption in India is a very personal or emotional decision of parents. Every family has different reasons for adoption, so it is impossible to say why people adopt. Here are Some common reasons for adoptions are:

Infertility: One of the most common reasons for adoption is Infertility. Couples who can not have a biological child naturally due to medical reasons, pursue adoption.

Single Parents:- Some people don’t want to marry and like to stay single they often opt. for adoption to have kids or to feel the feeling of parenthood. Same-sex may also cause a reason for adoption.

Medical Conditions: Sometimes people suffer from serious diseases and they don’t want to pass it on their kids. Women who are facing serious medical conditions and problem to carry pregnancy also pursue adoption.

Charity: Sometimes people who are not in a good financial condition to raise a child so they want to give a child in safe hands. Some kind-hearted people choose adoption to give a luxurious life and better education to a needy child.

Gender of the child: Some families have kids but they want another child of opposite sex to complete their family so they pursue adoption. Legal Child adoption agencies never allow to differentiating by gender.

Older Child than Infants: As we know the infants need 24hr care as compared to older children so some couples don’t want to raise a child from infancy the child adoption is a better option for them.

There are abundant other reason for adoption such as to control population, Cultural beliefs and much more. Whatever the reason is, Child Adoption is a beautiful feeling of satisfaction. Families who are financially strong must have pursued adoption to give a better life or lovable home for those who have no parents.   

Read the Reasons Why Adoption is not Right for You

Adoption is not less than a gift because you can give a luxurious life with a lot of love to a child who needs it and deserve it but sometimes it becomes worst if the adoption comes about the wrong reason. Is Adoption Right For You? Check out some reasons and know why you shouldn’t adopt a child if you have following reasons:-

  • Infertility Matters:  Don’t link infertility with new child adoption because it is not fair for the adopted child as a sort of Replacement. Inability to have a birth can be harmful to adoption. the adoptive placement begins to fail if the adoptive child fails to meet the expectations of parents.
  • Failing Marriage: Adoption is not right if you want to adopt a child to save your relationship. Un-attachment between the couple may occur even after adoption so it is unfair with the adoptive child to bring in home in certain situations.
  • Family Pressure: If a couple is childless or have infertility issues then family members and Friends pressurise them sometimes to adopt a child to complete their family. If you are not prepared for adoption yet or your gut tells you that it is wrong don’t go for adoption. You should have willing for adoption first.
  • Playmate for your Child: The adoptive child is not a way to fulfil the expectations of adoptive parents so it is not good to adopt a child to just give the company or playmate to your child.
  • To Delight your Partner: Adoption is a beautiful feeling of parenthood for both mother and father, if you are not agreeing for adoption, don’t adopt a child just to please your partner.

In Foster adoption process child have to visit adoptive parents home for a period of time and some families feel very bad when they decide not to adopt that child.
Given above are the major reasons why you shouldn’t go for the adoption. So adoption is not only the way to provide shelter to a needed child, it is a beautiful feeling of parenthood. So it is recommended to think before opt. For adoption in India.

Domestic and International Adoption in India

Adoption is a combination of both Legal or emotional processes but it becomes hectic sometimes if you are unaware of the rules and guidelines. Process of General Child Adoption in India usually have three main points that you need to deal with: Child availability, Travel and Cost of the adoption.

Child Availability:

International: International Adoption process takes time to complete paperwork that’s why a family will never receive a newborn baby. Some countries prefer domestic adoption rather than handover kid to foreigners. Once the child reached a certain age then the child is eligible for International adoption.

Domestic Adoption: In Domestic adoption, family has a better opportunity of being parents of a bundle of joy in less time as compared to international Adoption.

Cost of Adoption:

The cost of private adoption depends on agency fees, paperwork fees, expectant mother’s care etc.

International: International adoption process is very costly as compared to domestic adoption but if you are planning for the adoption of foreigner child then you have time to plan and save money.

Domestic Adoption: If you adopt through foster care system in your own state then the adoption fees would be very little.


International:  With international adoption, more than one trip is required.The couple has to travel or stay one to three weeks in that country from where they are adopting a child. So it becomes very difficult for some couples to manage with their work and other family members.  

Domestic Adoption: Couple needs to travel very little if they are adopting with foster care or from their own state.

In India, everyone has a right to adopt a child if he/she fulfil the requirements according to adoption laws. We would recommend to adopting only through the certified agency for hassle-free child adoption in India. Best of Luck.  

Story of 17 Years to have a child

It’s the Story of Mrs. Karyn Brown and Mr. Mike who tried to have a child for about 17 years and have gone through all painful, emotional and complex processes but then they decided to have an adoption as they were thinking it will be a simple and easy process. But still the fight to grow her family took years, endless red tape and almost unbearable emotional pain.

Ask Karyn now about the process, one where she fought the U.S. government and insurmountable odds to bring home a son, and she’ll tell you it was worth it. In fact, she’d do it all over again, each excruciating step.

But now Karyn has her beloved little boy who changed her world. She met her first time in 2010 at this child birth place ‘Kathmandu, Nepal’. Today they are happy but they remember the painful time they have faced first for a biological child then to adopt a child. They said they pray for the families who are looking for adoption in US especially from outside country.

Her Diwas.

Walking outside her Starkville house during a warm spring afternoon, Karyn is soon joined by Diwas, a bag of Doritos in his hands. He waves at the strangers who are walking toward his home, preparing for an interview with his family about the battle to bring him back to the United States from the orphanage where he spent the first 3 1/2 years of his life.

A few minutes later, Diwas shakes hands with the new people, holding his left hand away from his body to prevent the cheese dust coating his fingers from rubbing off on his new acquaintances.

“Diwas, wash your hands,” Karyn says to him.

With a slight grin and a twinkle in his eyes, Diwas lifts the offending hand and begins to lick the cheese away, a tactic employed by every 7-year-old who’s ever had the snack.

For Karyn and Mike, the youthful display is a reminder that they are now parents, a title they both yearned for since their marriage nearly 21 years ago.

“Adoption wasn’t foreign to us,” said Mike, 46, a meteorology and climatology professor at Mississippi State University. “My mother and father divorced, and when my father remarried they adopted three children, two domestic and one international. Karyn was adopted.

“And so when we couldn’t have a child of our own, it just seemed like a very simple thing for us to do.”

Karyn, 47, the MSU public relations academic program coordinator, said they put their names on both the domestic and international adoption lists.

“I think we just wanted to be parents,” she said of the eventual decision to adopt outside the country. “But I will tell you there was always just something on my heart tugging for Nepal. We really just fell in love with the culture, and there’s just a calling there.”

Waiting for a phone call, the Browns shared a lot of anxiety.

Then Nepal called.

The country, which had only recently reopened its borders for intercountry adoptions, responded with a referral for a child in July 2010, a full 14 months later than the Browns anticipated.

A picture was included, giving a face to their biggest hope.

They made plans to fly to Nepal and meet their child, but a few days before their trip the United States stopped accepting referrals of children to U.S. families. Since theirs had come before the cutoff, Mike and Karyn remained eligible. But the specter of uncertainty loomed over the process as allegations of fraud in the Nepal adoption system led the U.S. to re-evaluate the process there.

Four flights and 46 hours after leaving their home in Mississippi, the Browns were in Kathmandu, Nepal’s capital. It was Aug. 12, 2010, the same day they met their son at his orphanage.

“We got a picture, and it just doesn’t seem real. You get this picture you’ve been waiting for for three years and then you finally get the picture and you think, ‘Is this moment really happening?'” said Karyn.

“And then you actually got there at the orphanage, and he came around the corner and we saw him. The moment our eyes met I knew that was my son,” she said.

It’s the same moment Mike knew it was his boy.

“I knew immediately,” he said. “The orphanage did an amazing job in telling him that his mom and dad were on their way. So he was ready for us, too.

“He wasn’t scared. He climbed right up into our laps. The kisses on the cheeks started immediately and so, you know, immediately I knew that he was the right one,” Mike said.

The next day, the emotional high came crashing down when Mike and Karyn spoke with officials at the U.S. Embassy. The likelihood of Diwas going home with them was bleak.

Earlier in the adoption process, the couple had started a blog to document the process and keep their loved ones informed.

“Since we are here, we are choosing to fight for this,” Mike wrote in the blog that day.

The hardest part was about to start.

The struggle

The number of intercountry adoptions has fallen more than 60 percent since 2004, said Chuck Johnson, president and CEO of the National Council for Adoption.

 “Some of the decline has to do with countries closing to reorganize,” said Johnson, adding most of these instances were to address accusations of corruption in countries like Nepal, Guatemala, Vietnam and Cambodia.

Accusations of corruption in Nepal’s adoption system led the U.S. to begin investigations into the cases during the summer of 2010, which timed with Mike’s and Karyn’s plans to adopt little Diwas.

During this lengthy and politicized process, families like the Browns were caught in the crossfire.

Even as the odds looked unfavorable, Mike remembered that moment when he first laid eyes on his son. “I knew that regardless of what it took, we were going to succeed at this.”

At one point the couple discussed their options, including one of them quitting work and remaining in Nepal.

 “There was another way to get him home, but that required us to live there for two years and then we could bring him home on a different type of visa,” Mike said. “And we were willing to go that far, to give up our jobs.”

When the bad news had hit, there were 61 other families also forced into adoption limbo.

None gave up, Mike said. And now they also have their children.

After remaining in Nepal for several weeks, Mike and Karyn eventually had to leave in September. It was one of the darkest moments of their lives, but they knew they had a better chance of fighting for their son back in the U.S.

During those few months back home, both spent their free time trying to track down the necessary witnesses needed to prove to the U.S. government that Diwas was, in fact, an abandoned orphan and no fraud was present in his case.

Karyn said she would stay up late each night, scouring every source she could online to find the proof.

They reached out to the office of Sen. Roger Wicker, R-Miss.

Family and friends started petitions and raised money to help the couple afford the costs needed to pay for a private investigator and attorneys.

The family had budgeted somewhere around $25,000 to $30,000 for the initial adoption, Karyn said. The day her husband told her it was gone, she didn’t panic. Friends, family and strangers pitched in. The final costs haven’t been completely tallied, but it was more than double their original cost.

 An adoption finalized

On Jan. 21, 2011, more than four months after Mike and Karyn last saw Diwas, they received word their son’s status as an orphan was accepted.

They were back in Kathmandu a week later, back at the orphanage to see Diwas. But they worried the little tyke might have forgotten them.

 “We did not need to be nervous,” Mike wrote in their blog later that day. “It was as if we were never gone for the long 4 1/2 months. We were greeted with smiles, hugs and kisses.

“When the gummy bears made an appearance, we got to see the silly child that we remembered.”


After more paperwork and several visits to the orphanage, Mike and Karyn flew back home on Feb. 12, 2011.

Diwas was on the plane with them this time.

Returning home, the Browns – all three of them – were welcomed by family and friends. Their house was decorated and fully stocked.

 “It was nothing but supportive and amazing,” recalled Mike. “Most of our friends and family gave us some space, some time to recover from a journey literally halfway around the world.

“The grandparents couldn’t wait,” he said. “They had to get here right away. But after a couple of weeks, we started integrating him into our social circle, and it was meant to be.”

Three years later, they still look in amazement at their son.

 “The Nepalese government, they claim that they try to match the children with the adoptive family, regardless of the country,” Mike said. “And I don’t exactly know how they do that.

“They couldn’t have matched him more perfectly. His personality fits our family. The only thing that isn’t the same is the color of our skin. Otherwise, if you were blind, you would not know that he was adopted because of the way he interacts with us.”

It’s a bond that’s shared wholeheartedly by their son, who just turned 7 in April.

Ask Diwas about his favorite thing to do, and he’ll respond, “School.”

His favorite subjects: math and recess.

Ask Diwas if he has a favorite sport, and you’re likely to get a response based on whichever one he recently played. There’s baseball, swimming, soccer, basketball.

At one point, he decides soccer is tops. When asked about his favorite part of the game, he thinks for a second.

“Scoring a goal,” comes his reply.

Mike and Diwas throw the baseball back and forth in the backyard. Then the baseball bat comes out, and Diwas lets everyone know it’s time to play.

At times, Mike picks him up and hangs him upside down.

Karyn watches close by, laughing and smiling at the look of utter joy on her boy’s face and his infectious giggle.

Happy Mother’s Day

Today, Karyn celebrates Mother’s Day. It’s her fourth time waking up on this special day to greet her son.

 “I think I cried most of that first Mother’s Day,” she said. “And I will say, my friends and family made it so special for me because they knew that it was my first Mother’s Day.

“But at the same time, with a heavy heart, I thought about all those mothers that were struggling with infertility and in that wait for adoption.

“And so I have to admit that every Mother’s Day, I’m elated that I get to share it with Diwas, but at the same time, I say a prayer and think about all of those that were in the same struggle that we were in because I know how difficult Mother’s Days can be.”

Karyn remembers times when she wasn’t sure she would ever know the familial bliss she has today. “I was a person of faith before this,” she said. “But there are times where you really start to question and wonder.”

Today, Karyn is a woman with faith renewed.

 “I know Diwas was born for me,” she said. “God had it planned all along.”

Barnes also reports for The (Jackson, Miss.) Clarion-Ledger


Kids born after rape is struggling for dignity in India

It has been studied that kids born after rapes in India has to struggle for dignity more than everything else. They have to live for the truth of his/her mother. Its a shame for our society that hasitate to accept those kids who have actually done nothing wrong.

Reports says that most of the families prefer abortion of the victim as a number of uneasy questions crop up once the teenage girl is identified as pregnant, but in some cases where with the concent of girl a baby is born espite the social stigma and then that baby has to fight for dignity as a normal human being. The battle for the survivors continues in their effort to establish an identity for the child which is free from the shadows of the past.

In 2010, a 16-year-old girl in Mahudha town of Kheda district was raped repeatedly by a witch doctor on the pretext of curing her illness. The distraught girl finally came out when she got pregnant the next year and the identity of the rapist became known. Her battle ended when the accused was acquitted for lack of evidence.

When the rape survivor’s daughter was registered on government records in 2011, the survivor’s father — the girl’s maternal grandfather — was named as her father on her birth certificate. It was puzzling for the family as the man in question died five years before the incident. The girl’s mother is now trying to mend this error.

Indian Father can give his Child for adoption

In a historical decision by Madurai Branch of Madras High Court on Friday, 28th March; fathers has a right to give his child in adoption in case mother is not living or is not taking care of child or is separated already.

Justice S Tamilvanan and Justice V S Ravi has given this decision against plea of child’s Grand month to stop father to allow giving his child to another couple legally. Court ordered that father is the legal guardian of the child after the death of her mother.

Decision was also taken in consideration that that grandparents are getting old and they would not be able to take care of the child incase father goes absent. The couple who had adopted the child is taking care of the child nicely has also given help in the decision.

Foreign Children Adoption in US reduced 18%

American Parents Adoption for foreign children reduced to 21year low ie by more than 18%. It is the lowest level since 1992. These figures are released on 21st March 2014 by the “State Department for the 2013 fiscal year”. It says that only 7094 adoptions were done from abroad last year 2013 where as in 2012 it was around 8,668. Highest no. of adoptions were in 2004 which was 22,884.

Most no. of adoptions done was from China which is 2306, second was from Ethiopia (903). As per State Officials the Plunge is due to ban by Russia on adoption by Americans.