Providing someone who needs a family is satisfying. There could be millions of reasons to think about adopting a child. But coming to decision is the tricky part. Scroll through the article to find out the right motivation to adopt a child.
Answer the why first
Adopting is not a child’s play; being crystal clear in your thoughts will be the precursor for all the upcoming events. Ask yourself why you are thinking of adopting a child. Is it because of infertility or you have waited too long for a partner to start a family, you think you can be better off as a single parent or is it the insight calling?
Whatever may be the reason for adopting a child, one needs to be firm on the feeling that a new member is going to be an inseparable part of your life and family. Circumstances are not in favour of the destitute and [s]he carries scars from the past, a history that is decided to remain closed, memories of previous time which still haunts them, the grief of losing parents or been abandoned. But you being a bigger person in the picture shouldn’t care about those. Accept and embrace the child the way [s]he is. Because being judgemental will only increase the gap between you two.
Being a Parent is all that matters
Parenthood is a phase of life everyone desires to have. But unable to conceive a child of your own hurts many badly. This, however, doesn’t define your journey to this astonishing feeling. A biological child is of great importance but a child with whom you share a deep and strong bond of emotion is supreme. Your desire to be a parent and having a child ought to be given top priority.
Now is the right time
The process of adoption is a tedious one. Sometimes it takes more than a year to get a child to adopt. This definitely doesn’t imply going for illegal pathways, rather stepping up early to ensure a fast pace for your application. A predecessor for adoption is shedding out all the stereotypes, prejudices, and judgemental behaviour towards certain people/groups. These negative behaviours, however, should be avoided in general as the possessed pre-conceived notions for someone, in particular, will create more hurdles for you to become a parent.
Someone to fill your life
Difficulty in becoming a parent can be emotionally distressing. This could be one reason you think of adoption but shouldn’t be the only reason. Rather your aim should be to bestow a child in need with familial care, support and love. Such a feeling will help you to accept the child with ease, making him/her comfortable within the family and no question arising on the past life of the child.